Attracting More Starts in Your Mind: Here's What Needs to Change

I used to think the key to getting what I wanted in life was to hustle harder.

Prove myself. Work late. Stay productive. Keep checking the boxes.

You too?

It’s what so many of us were taught: the American Dream is something you earn through effort.

But what if it’s something you could attract through alignment?

That’s exactly what we unpacked in this week’s episode of Unjuggle the Struggle with Heather Hakes—mindset coach, speaker, author of Take the Leap, and a powerhouse in the world of personal transformation.

Heather and I both shared stories of hitting that moment where everything looked right on the outside… but felt wrong on the inside. The relationship. The job. The life you thought you were supposed to want.

And here’s what we both discovered:

✨ You don’t get what you want—you get who you are.

That means the energy you show up with? The thoughts you repeat? The beliefs you carry about yourself and the world? They shape what you attract.

💡 Here’s what needs to shift if you want to attract more of what actually aligns:

1. Radical responsibility over recycled patterns

If the same kind of relationship, opportunity, or experience keeps showing up in your life, it’s time to ask:

What’s the common denominator? (And spoiler alert: it’s you.)

But that’s not a bad thing—it’s a powerful thing. Because once you own your patterns, you can rewrite them.

2. Mindset isn’t just thoughts—it’s embodiment

Heather calls this the “identity shift.” You can journal and manifest all day long, but until your actions and energy align with the person you say you want to become… nothing changes.

Who are you being today that aligns with what you want to attract?

3. Stop chasing. Start attracting.

The old model says you have to push, pull, and chase your way to the top. But what if the key to your next-level life is learning how to receive?

To sit in curiosity. To listen to the inner nudge. To release what’s no longer serving you—even if it’s comfortable.

Whether you’re in a career pivot, navigating a relationship loop, or in the thick of redefining who you’re becoming… this episode is a reminder that the biggest changes often start in the quietest places—your thoughts, your stories, and your willingness to believe that it gets to be different.

👉 Listen to the episode here

👉 Take Heather’s Life Assessment Tool

👉 DM me on IG if this episode hit home for you. I’d love to hear your biggest insight.

You deserve a life full of purpose, joy, & freedom, And it all starts in your mind. 💭

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Connect with Heather:

https://www.heatherhakes.com/home

https://www.instagram.com/heather.hakes/

https://www.youtube.com/@heatherhakes

https://www.linkedin.com/in/heather-hakes-64ba0914/

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**You’re made for more—let’s explore what that looks like, together. 💛 I'd love to hear about the possibilities you're ready to explore! Email me directly at brittney@brittneytollinchi.com